Let’s talk about death

One thing in society that we don’t generally talk about until it happens is the death of someone close, now I had lost 4 grandparents as an adult and yes I was sad at their loss but then I have also experienced loss at a much closer level when Bella died. The latter was so much more devastating than anything I had experienced before.

The fact that we don’t generally talk about something like this that we are all going to have to deal with at one point or another meant that I was left not knowing what to do. Lots of people said they were sorry for my loss and that if I wanted to talk then I could with them. But one thing that I noticed is that most people wouldn’t just drop me a message and ask how I was doing.

If I wanted to talk to someone I found that I would have to contact someone and initiate the conversation myself, because most people become worried that they don’t know what to say or they are worried about saying the wrong thing. Something that is understandable, as if I were in there position then I would probably be the same.

Luckily I have found a few people who are in a similar situation as me at the moment and that allows me to talk to someone who understands my situation and therefore allows me to be as open as I like as we have this shared experience and can relate to how we are feeling at that point. These people have been a god-send at…